'Sharing life together' - Living in Community

Updated: Mar 18, 2020

Alessy explains why friendship is important to her…

Since I was little, I have always found gatherings very exciting. I enjoy being with people and spending time together. Being on my own has never appealed to me! And nothing has changed. I keep promising John (my husband) that “TOMORROW” we will rest! But when tomorrow comes, it is full of things to do with others. I remember when we got married in Italy, how wonderful it was to be surrounded by family and friends from all over Europe, but we recognised the need for some down time.  So we agreed that on our honeymoon we would do very little, but even before the end of our first day in Sargegna, we had already booked a quad bike adventure day, a boat trip and hired a car…!

Sharing life together is wonderful and although I recognise the need to rest and spend some quiet time on a regular basis, it shouldn’t be an excuse to not mix with others. What does the Bible say about sharing life together? It says a lot, but one thing I found out for myself is that doing community and sharing life together is like a treasure hunt. In every person there are precious gems, well hidden, and in order to find them we need to invest time in people. When we open our homes to others and share life together, we grow closer to each other and build relationships.

I must confess, the first time I heard God asking me to befriend someone who wasn’t “on my radar”, I asked Him if he was kidding me as I “knew” I didn’t have anything in common with that person. How wrong was I! It was then I discovered that people have hidden treasure and how much they can bless us without even realising it. These treasures are not always visible, and sometimes take a while to find, but if we spend enough time with people those treasures are discovered. That is why John and I organise cinema trips, movie nights, game nights, meals together, pamper evenings (well, I organised those!) karaoke nights, dog walks, community group weekend away and more! All because we need each other - God has never meant for us to do life on our own.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.   Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms”. 1 Peter 4:8-10


Gateway Church Ashford, is a church in Ashford, Kent, and is part of the New Frontiers movement and within the Catalyst Network sphere.